I personally appreciate the time you take to share all this with everyone.
I learned a lot from you since I started following your blog, and I have "Don't fret this is only temporary" on my fridge to remind me to take it easy.
Thank you for the very helpful/awesome posts!

are you being serious right now? People should keep their mouth shut? Bitch, i read your book. i've seen the blogs. and even in this post, you have a picture of you and ryan that says "skinny jeans = heartbreak on it." take your own advise and shut your mouth for once.

Sorry to be spamming here with comments, but, now that I look back at my first comment I have no idea what I was thinking. I didn't know anything about you, but I decided to be a complete idiot and judge you off of nothing. I've learned more and more about you guys as a couple and I have a hugely different take on you. I just hope you know how sorry I am, because I was in a really bad mood that day and didn't know what I was doing.

I think in this 'advice' you ought to say 'Don't do drugs.Period" not 'don't do cocaine, smoke a joint'! Both are equally bad for your health. Not 'Do not start with cocaine.' But again 'Do not do drugs.'! Come on, now! :/

I wish I could believe this statement more often. I will certainly have to print this out and remind myself to not hate myself as much as I do.

Hey, again.
Sorry that my last message sounded pretty rude, and I admit it. I was having a bad morning and saw a link to this page on Twitter, and I took my feelings out on a random person who I don't even know anything about. I've been a huge fan of Ryan since '06, so, I guess I get pretty worked up. Sorry, again, and I'm happy to hear that you guys are great friends! I've looked through the other advice on here, and, I can agree with it. No, I don't HATE you, I hated my morning. So, sorry again for being such a big jerk!
Thanks.

So many people need this advice right here.

"World travelers are just people who bought plane tickets". Interesting way of looking at it, very true. I like that.

tim. i've never done it, but it seems to me like nothing really that fun happens.

I am so proud of what you just said^^ here. Instead of being hateful you were extremely calm and colected about it! Great advice by the way

ha this is so true... cocaine equals alot of talking about nothing and people making weird mouth movements followed with a really pointless long night. amen to this.

Hi Alysha,

Actually, none of these were written with anything to do with him in mind. They are things people have told me, I have read and written down that I think are some pieces of great advice. I guess it's hard for anyone on the outside to understand the relationship that we have now. i think everyone would be surprised that we are actually friends, I see him at least once and month, he's given me a tour of his new house and we've had many conversations about our wishes, flaws and ways of dealing with things. Ryan's life isn't in the dumps, that's just what the outside world thinks. He is busy, doing what he loves and honestly seems calmer and more content than I have ever seen him. It's hard to believe but fame isn't always #1 to people, and many people who have it, then really revert from wanting it.

I guess because of our relationship that people do not see, it's easy for me to crack one on him because I know he will laugh, shake his head and I think understands my crazy. Ryan is friends with both swoon and I, and honestly, this is a much bigger deal to you than it is to us, we laugh about our relationship and what a nut-so time it was often.

So, sorry if I offended you, but know that I love Ryan immensely and at this point this is sort of a ridiculous caricature of life for us. Maybe I shouldn't have posted it, but I thought it was sort of cute!

lol.

Wow, Keltie. I told myself to have respect for you, but, it's getting hard. I've never really hated you until now. Yes, Ryan is one of my inspirations, but, I have other reasons for being angry. First of all: I've seen tons of advice from you that I can agree on.

"When in doubt, shut up. Most of the time the best thing you can do is shut up. Talking in circles when you're hurt, upset, or angry makes things worse."

"Don't complain. If you're frustrated, turn that energy towards fixing your problems, not bitching about them."

"Being nice is overrated. Be polite. Be kind. Be thoughtful. But never let people walk all over you. Be sure of yourself + know what you deserve."

"Mistakes. We all make them. Mistakes happen. You can't take back what's done and what's said. Take responsibility for what you did and move on. Learn from it. Apologize if you were wrong."

"If someone continuously says the same thing over and over, you can bet it is not entirely true. Examples: I don't drink that much. I don't fool around on my girlfriend. I hate all gay people."

"Everyone has an ego. Too much or too little is guaranteed trouble. Put simply, don't believe yourself, believe in yourself."

"Do what you say you will do. This is an important measure of a person. If you say you will call. Call. If you say you will be there. Be there. If you say "I will never cheat on you". Don't cheat."

"You will never understand the opposite sex. Accept it. Revel in it. Enjoy it."

"Skinny jeans= Heartbreak"

Am I supposed to believe these aren't about Ryan? The last one is obvious, of course, since there is a picture of him and you.

So, I have one question. You go around telling us to deal with our hard feelings, then bash Ryan every chance you get? You said it yourself, everyone makes mistakes (which does make you a bit of a hypocrite). Ryan's life might be in the dumps right now, and he's been pretty bad to you, but why does that mean it's alright to still publicly express your hate? He's human, and humans have emotion. Now ask yourself:

"If I was the one who cheated on him, would I be alright of he started to post all of these 'Things I wish someone told me' about me?"

I bet your answer is "No.". If you're such a kind person who believes in forgiving and forgetting, then why do you continue to do this?